If I tell you where the secluded beaches and ponds are they won't be very secluded for long! LOL!
Suffice it to say that there are plenty of places on the outer cape to choose from...from Eatham to Truro. When you have chosen your lodging, ask the owner for suggestions in the area. The local innkeepers and owners know places they only tell their guests.
The closest ponds I know of are in Wellfleet. They are not secluded and you need a Wellfleet beach sticker to park there when the parking lot is staffed. After 6pm and before 8am you can go without a sticker.
The National Seashore beaches are great. At most of them, a 10 minute walk gets you away from the crowds and into some pretty quiet areas.
Unfortunately, I do not know,of much secluded lodging ... hopefully somebody else can help there. I regularly stay in Truro on Rte 6A. I have had fun stays at The Topmast, the Crow's Nest and Days' Cottages. All attract families with kids and are not particularly quiet.
When do you plan to visit.Edited: 14 July 2014, 03:26
Thanks for your responses. I am going to book a cottage or apt thru Vrbo or Air bnb rather than stay at a hotel. I am wondering if Ministers pond is nice for swimming. I am considering a cottage that is a short walk from Ministers pond in Eastham. Thanks
I do not think that you can swim at Ministers Pond, at least not officially. It does not have a town run beach (or any beach that i am aware of). You can use Google Maps to reconnoiter the shoreline. Some homes that front the pond may have swimming access but not for the general public.
If the cottage you're contemplating is part of the small, Nauset Haven "colony", swimming in Minister's Pond is among the on-site activities listed on the Nauset Haven homeowners association's web site:
It looks inviting!
P.S. Perhaps the reviews posted with Nauset Haven cottage listings on VRBO or HomeAway will shed light on whether road noise is bothersome, etc. You can read through them all by clicking the squares on this map which have the direct link to each property's listing:
Information from the OP was vague. Sounded as if she was looking in general in two towns. No specific venue mentioned. Nauset Haven would not have a lot of activity. Generally, "quiet and secluded" are not characteristic of Cape Cod beaches. Perhaps one of the ponds in Wellfleet would suit them, such as Great Pond or Gull Pond.
Do keep in mind that cottage colonies attract families during the summer season so you can expect some lively activity around your cottage if you stay in July and August.
Thank you all for your responses. I was looking at a tiny secluded cottage that was not part of a colony in the woods. I think it was next to a main house. It was down the road from Ministers pond in Eastham. I really don't need the beaches to be secluded but do prefer a more quiet, less populated beach. I have been to the Cape before but have not stayed in the OUter Cape for over 15 years. I love swimming ponds. I also was looking at a couple of studios in Truro. I am trying to avoid the colonies. Thanks again for any advice.